🧠 What Is Oppositional Defiant Disorder?

ODD is a behavioural condition seen in children and teens. It involves a consistent pattern of angry, defiant, and argumentative behaviour, especially toward authority figures like parents and teachers.

Common signs include:

• Frequent temper tantrums
• Arguing with adults
• Refusing to follow rules
• Deliberately annoying others
• Blaming others for mistakes
• Being easily annoyed or resentful

These behaviours go beyond typical childhood defiance and can affect relationships, school life, and emotional wellbeing.

🏡 How Parents Can Support Their Child at Home

1. Stay Calm and Regulated

Children with ODD often react strongly to emotional cues. Try to stay calm during conflicts. Use a steady tone of voice and avoid showing frustration—this helps model emotional control.

2. Set Clear and Consistent Boundaries

Children with ODD need structure. Set simple, clear rules and stick to them. Be consistent with consequences and avoid negotiating during emotional moments.

3. Pick Your Battles

Focus on the most important behaviours. Avoid power struggles over minor issues. Prioritise safety, respect, and key routines.

4. Use Positive Reinforcement

Praise and reward cooperative behaviour. Catch your child doing something right and let them know you noticed. This builds motivation and self-esteem.

5. Offer Choices

Giving your child small choices (e.g. “Do you want to brush your teeth before or after your story?”) helps them feel more in control and reduces resistance.

6. Create Predictable Routines

Children with ODD often feel more secure when they know what to expect. Use visual schedules or checklists to help them follow daily routines.

7. Take Breaks When Needed

If a situation is escalating, it’s okay to step away and take a moment to calm down. This models healthy coping and prevents things from getting worse.

8. Seek Professional Support

Therapies like Parent-Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT) or Parent Management Training (PMT) can be very effective. These programs teach parents how to respond to challenging behaviours and strengthen the parent-child relationship.

9. Build Emotional Skills

Help your child learn to name and manage their feelings. Use calm-down strategies like breathing exercises, drawing, or quiet time.

10. Connect with Support Networks

You’re not alone. Talking to other parents, joining support groups, or working with professionals can make a big difference.